The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.
Anthony Robbins
Research shows that having close relationships tops the scale in terms of what contributes most to our happiness. Those who have close relationships are also, for the most part, healthier (ie lowered blood pressure and improved immune function) as well. (1)
New paradigms in relationships related to intimate partnerships and sexuality are discussed on this page. You can find information on Parenting and Our Relationship to Animals in this section as well.
The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.
Anthony Robbins
Research shows that having close relationships tops the scale in terms of what contributes most to our happiness. Those who have close relationships are also, for the most part, healthier (ie lowered blood pressure and improved immune function) as well. (1)
New paradigms in relationships related to intimate partnerships and sexuality are discussed on this page. You can find information on Parenting and Our Relationship to Animals in this section as well.
Intimate Relationships
Intimate Relationships
“Are you willing to have your relationships be a pathway to fully revealing yourself and your potential? If your answer is yes, real intimacy can be yours on a daily basis” Gay Hendricks
Being able to relate to one another in healthy ways is a skill that, once learned, can lead to greater connectedness, success, and happiness in life. When you are successful at relating, you feel closer to others and live with greater harmony in your life. Your sense of separation from others dissolves and there is overall more satisfaction in what you do in life.
Being in harmony with others through our ability to communicate well can enhance our creative problem solving capabilities as well.
As such, it is a primary skill for a successful life.
“Are you willing to have your relationships be a pathway to fully revealing yourself and your potential? If your answer is yes, real intimacy can be yours on a daily basis” Gay Hendricks
Being able to relate to one another in healthy ways is a skill that, once learned, can lead to greater connectedness, success, and happiness in life. When you are successful at relating, you feel closer to others and live with greater harmony in your life. Your sense of separation from others dissolves and there is overall more satisfaction in what you do in life.
Being in harmony with others through our ability to communicate well can enhance our creative problem solving capabilities as well.
As such, it is a primary skill for a successful life.
Building Relationships
Building Relationships
Harville Hendrix- Imago Relationship Therapy
“Imago is effective as a way to create stronger relationships, because it helps us become more aware of the way that we are all deeply interconnected. It offers insights into the unconscious agenda we bring to our relationships. With this information, we can begin to co-operate with this hidden agenda. As a result, we can choose to grow together in a creative, non-controlling, and healing way that creates understanding and connection. ”
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Nonviolent Communication
“Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence– the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart. NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution. The NVC community is active in over 65 countries around the globe.”
Kathryn and Gay Hendricks
Invite us to experience a new way of relating…..one built on appreciation, wonder, and integrity. One that fuels connection and autonomy. One that takes a conscious stand for joy in our relationships
Harville Hendrix- Imago Relationship Therapy
“Imago is effective as a way to create stronger relationships, because it helps us become more aware of the way that we are all deeply interconnected. It offers insights into the unconscious agenda we bring to our relationships. With this information, we can begin to co-operate with this hidden agenda. As a result, we can choose to grow together in a creative, non-controlling, and healing way that creates understanding and connection. ”
Click Here and Here
Nonviolent Communication
“Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence– the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart. NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs.People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution. The NVC community is active in over 65 countries around the globe.”
Kathryn and Gay Hendricks
Invite us to experience a new way of relating…..one built on appreciation, wonder, and integrity. One that fuels connection and autonomy. One that takes a conscious stand for joy in our relationships
Spiritual Perspective on Relationship
Spiritual Perspective on Relationship
Seeing through the Illusion: A Spiritual Perspective
Ram Dass
“And you can’t milk the romanticism of relationship too long as you become more conscious. It’s more interesting than that. It really is. And people want to romanticize their lives all the time. It’s part of the culture. But the awakening process starts to show you the emptiness of that forum. And you start to go for something deeper.”
What Makes a Relationship Work?
David Hawkins says it is alignment in purpose and intent.
However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the “right” person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside. Deepak Chopra
Seeing through the Illusion: A Spiritual Perspective
Ram Dass
“And you can’t milk the romanticism of relationship too long as you become more conscious. It’s more interesting than that. It really is. And people want to romanticize their lives all the time. It’s part of the culture. But the awakening process starts to show you the emptiness of that forum. And you start to go for something deeper.”
What Makes a Relationship Work?
David Hawkins says it is alignment in purpose and intent.
However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the “right” person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside. Deepak Chopra
Love
Love
“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.” David R. Hawkins
Love: Fantasy and Reality
I Choose Love
Shawn Gallaway is a singer songwriter, visual artist, author and healer, traveling the world to share his message of healing through the arts. His “Conscious Music” raises awareness and inspires personal growth and global transformation through life-enhancing lyrics and melodies that activate the heart with healing love in honor of all life. You’ll want to listen to the beautiful lyrics and watch this amazing video over and over again.
Love is Energy…Pass It Forward
Love is the most powerful energy in the world. The energy of love is very magnetic……pass it forward..…
“Wanting to be loved, we will never know love, because it is a desire to ego satisfaction, which cannot be satisfied. The desire to love, however, is not ego-based and thus has the power to fulfill us. So, love. If we love, then we will find that we are much freer to live life.” Maticintin, Wisdom Master
“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.” David R. Hawkins
Love: Fantasy and Reality
I Choose Love
Shawn Gallaway is a singer songwriter, visual artist, author and healer, traveling the world to share his message of healing through the arts. His “Conscious Music” raises awareness and inspires personal growth and global transformation through life-enhancing lyrics and melodies that activate the heart with healing love in honor of all life. You’ll want to listen to the beautiful lyrics and watch this amazing video over and over again.
Love is Energy…Pass It Forward
Love is the most powerful energy in the world. The energy of love is very magnetic……pass it forward..…
“Wanting to be loved, we will never know love, because it is a desire to ego satisfaction, which cannot be satisfied. The desire to love, however, is not ego-based and thus has the power to fulfill us. So, love. If we love, then we will find that we are much freer to live life.” Maticintin, Wisdom Master
Sexuality
Sexuality
“Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstasy.” Anais Nin
Sexual Energy
Sexual energy has wide ranging potential in the human experience, from the sublime and transcendent to the most carnal. It can bring us to unimaginable heights of pleasure and ecstasy and its’ misuse can bring us the deepest kind pain.
Because we are often not educated to understand the full potential that our sexuality offers, we not only miss opportunities that would enrich and elevate our lives, but through repression of these powerful forces, we are often led to behaviors that do not serve ourselves and others.
As our understanding and appreciation for this powerful and potent energy grows, we are learning to utilize it to power our loving connection with ourselves and others.
And, sometimes we are blessed to touch the Sacred.
“Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstasy.” Anais Nin
Sexual Energy
Sexual energy has wide ranging potential in the human experience, from the sublime and transcendent to the most carnal. It can bring us to unimaginable heights of pleasure and ecstasy and its’ misuse can bring us the deepest kind pain.
Because we are often not educated to understand the full potential that our sexuality offers, we not only miss opportunities that would enrich and elevate our lives, but through repression of these powerful forces, we are often led to behaviors that do not serve ourselves and others.
As our understanding and appreciation for this powerful and potent energy grows, we are learning to utilize it to power our loving connection with ourselves and others.
And, sometimes we are blessed to touch the Sacred.
Healthy Sexuality
Healthy Sexuality
Healthier times from the past
A healthier relationship to sexuality was enjoyed in previous times. Pre-Vedic, Tantric India and Taosit China considered sex to be essential to our well being and health and also a means to liberate spiritual energy. Indeed Taoist physicians mapped out sexual reflexology points on the penis and vulva that when stimulated lead to balanced health. They also utilized and prescribed sexual positions to cure different ailments.
Ancient Hawaii is an example among Polynesian islands whose attitudes toward sexuality were open and permissive. They saw sex are positive, pleasurable and considered sexual needs and desires as basic as the need to eat. Their young were instructed in matters of sex. Nudity was the norm. Homosexuality was not taboo. Sexual expression was valued and encouraged. With this healthy relationship to their sexuality, dysfunctions such as impotence, inhibitions of desire or lack of orgasm in men or women were reportedly unknown or at least rare. Prostitution was unknown before the invasion of the islands.(1)
What is healthy sexuality?
“Learning to distinguish healthy sexuality from other forms of sexual experience empowers you to bring healthy sex more into your own life and relationships. Here is a comparisons chart that contrasts “healthy sexuality” with a “sexual abuse and sexual addiction” perspective on sex. Pay attention to any items that concern or confuse you”
Promoting Loving Sex and Intimacy
“This website is dedicated to promoting love-based, healthy sexuality. The information found can help you make responsible decisions about sex, heal sex problems, and increase your sexual pleasure and happiness with a partner”
Harnessing the full potential of sexual energy by channeling it
By learning to channel sexual energy, one gains a greater capacity to develop their creative expression, personal power and well being. One’s sense of vitality and well being can be enhanced.
Maltz HierarchTime of My Life of Sexual Interaction
“Due to changes in sexual mores and behaviors during the 1900’s, our society has been left without clear guidelines to help channel sexual energy. The Maltz Hierarchy of Sexual Interaction is a progressive model for understanding sexual relating. It provides a way of evaluating sexual behavior within the context of relationships. Sexual energy is presented as a benign, natural force, which can be channeled in either destructive or life-affirming ways. The model presents six levels of sexual interaction”
“To climb to the heights, sex education is not enough. We need to learn how to love.”
Joseph & Lois Bird
Healthier times from the past
A healthier relationship to sexuality was enjoyed in previous times. Pre-Vedic, Tantric India and Taosit China considered sex to be essential to our well being and health and also a means to liberate spiritual energy. Indeed Taoist physicians mapped out sexual reflexology points on the penis and vulva that when stimulated lead to balanced health. They also utilized and prescribed sexual positions to cure different ailments.
Ancient Hawaii is an example among Polynesian islands whose attitudes toward sexuality were open and permissive. They saw sex are positive, pleasurable and considered sexual needs and desires as basic as the need to eat. Their young were instructed in matters of sex. Nudity was the norm. Homosexuality was not taboo. Sexual expression was valued and encouraged. With this healthy relationship to their sexuality, dysfunctions such as impotence, inhibitions of desire or lack of orgasm in men or women were reportedly unknown or at least rare. Prostitution was unknown before the invasion of the islands.(1)
What is healthy sexuality?
“Learning to distinguish healthy sexuality from other forms of sexual experience empowers you to bring healthy sex more into your own life and relationships. Here is a comparisons chart that contrasts “healthy sexuality” with a “sexual abuse and sexual addiction” perspective on sex. Pay attention to any items that concern or confuse you”
Promoting Loving Sex and Intimacy
“This website is dedicated to promoting love-based, healthy sexuality. The information found can help you make responsible decisions about sex, heal sex problems, and increase your sexual pleasure and happiness with a partner”
Harnessing the full potential of sexual energy by channeling it
By learning to channel sexual energy, one gains a greater capacity to develop their creative expression, personal power and well being. One’s sense of vitality and well being can be enhanced.
Maltz HierarchTime of My Life of Sexual Interaction
“Due to changes in sexual mores and behaviors during the 1900’s, our society has been left without clear guidelines to help channel sexual energy. The Maltz Hierarchy of Sexual Interaction is a progressive model for understanding sexual relating. It provides a way of evaluating sexual behavior within the context of relationships. Sexual energy is presented as a benign, natural force, which can be channeled in either destructive or life-affirming ways. The model presents six levels of sexual interaction”
“To climb to the heights, sex education is not enough. We need to learn how to love.”
Joseph & Lois Bird
Other Thoughts on Sexuality
Other Thoughts on Sexuality
Misuse of Sexual Energy
“All problems related to sex, neurosis, deviancy, sexual misbehavior, violence, abuse, can be traced to resistance, suppression and repression — not to the sexual urges themselves. If we are allowed to discover our urges, desires and emotions, without outside inhibition, they won’t go to extremes. Extremism, in any form, is a reaction to repression, inhibition and suppression. Aggression and violence are the shadow energies of fear and impotence. In sex, as in all areas of life, resistance is born of fear. All resistance is mental. It implies judgment against what is being felt. Sex becomes a problem when it gets mixed with hidden emotions such as shame, guilt and anger.” Deepak Chopra
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“True intimacy is union between flesh and flesh, between subtle body and subtle body, between soul and soul. Sex is a means of escaping our little self or ego. It is many peoples’ only experience of meditation.”
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“Sexual energy is sacred energy. When we have restored the sexual experience to the realm of the sacred, our world will be chaste and divine, holy and healed.”
Deepak Chopra
Misuse of Sexual Energy
“All problems related to sex, neurosis, deviancy, sexual misbehavior, violence, abuse, can be traced to resistance, suppression and repression — not to the sexual urges themselves. If we are allowed to discover our urges, desires and emotions, without outside inhibition, they won’t go to extremes. Extremism, in any form, is a reaction to repression, inhibition and suppression. Aggression and violence are the shadow energies of fear and impotence. In sex, as in all areas of life, resistance is born of fear. All resistance is mental. It implies judgment against what is being felt. Sex becomes a problem when it gets mixed with hidden emotions such as shame, guilt and anger.” Deepak Chopra
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“True intimacy is union between flesh and flesh, between subtle body and subtle body, between soul and soul. Sex is a means of escaping our little self or ego. It is many peoples’ only experience of meditation.”
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“Sexual energy is sacred energy. When we have restored the sexual experience to the realm of the sacred, our world will be chaste and divine, holy and healed.”
Deepak Chopra